Success is the goal of everything we do in life.
Whether it’s starting a business, losing weight, getting a degree or raising children, we strive to succeed. While we all reach some level of success in our lives, many of us go through a minefield of failure to get there while others seem to have little trouble achieving lasting success. So, why do some people succeed where others fail? It’s about their habits.
Habits are what we do without thinking: the things we do day in and day out that get ingrained into our subconscious. The problem is, when we think of the word “habit” we generally equate it with nail-biting, smoking, or some other undesirable addiction. That’s because most of us don’t focus on the habits we create. Think about all of the routines and behaviors you engage in each day and how they affect you. Now think about how your life could change if all of your habits, routines, and daily rituals were designed to empower you to succeed.
I recently spoke with 5 of the world’s top life coaches and mentors to bring you their professional advice on the habits of success. I asked each of them the following question: “What are the 3 most important habits a person could start incorporating into their life to increase their chances of success?” The following is their response.
1. BOB PROCTOR @BOBPROCTORLIVE
To millions of people across the globe, the name Bob Proctor is synonymous with success. Long before his role in the movie The Secret sent him into the realm of superstardom, he was already a legendary figure in the world of personal development. His insights, inspiration, ideas, systems, and strategies are the dimes on which countless lives have spun — the sparks that have ignited career transformations, personal epiphanies, inner awakenings, and the creation of million-dollar fortunes the world over. As a speaker, author, consultant, coach, and mentor, Bob works with business entities and individuals around the world, instilling within them not only the mental foundations of success and the motivation to achieve, but also the actionable strategies that will empower them to grow, improve, and thrive in today’s ever-changing world.
“Start by creating an image of what you would very much like to be, do, or have. Write the image down and make it a habit to read it several times a day. Second, stop doing things that generate results that you don’t want, and start doing things that will make you more successful. I know that sounds simple, but in order to do that consistently, you need to change your paradigm, which is your subconscious mind’s programming. When you begin to change your paradigm, your habits and behaviors automatically change and that changes your results. Finally, stop letting the outside world control your mind. Instead, develop the habit of living from the inside out. Then, you can look at your results like a stranger would, and if they’re not the results you want, begin to think thoughts that will create the idea of what you do want. The new thoughts will cause a new feeling, the feeling will cause new actions and the actions will produce new successful results.”
For more from Bob, visit BobProctorCoaching.com
2. MICHEAL BURT @MICHEALBURT
Coach Micheal Burt is considered the Super Coach, a unique blend of a former championship coach who has an entrepreneurial mind. His reality TV show Zebras and Cheetahs can be found on the Whatever it Takes Network and any of his ten books can be purchased at coachburt.com. His most elite coaching program is called “Monster Producer” and helps individuals become legendary creatures that combine multiple skill sets to dominate a market.
“1. The first to get up wins the most- There is something about starting your day with a private victory that precedes the public victories. I suggest getting up 30 minutes earlier than anyone in your house for reflection and perspective followed by physical workout preferably with a trainer. They will push you beyond your limits and build tremendous confidence in you. Your day actually starts the night before by writing out your daily goals, success and failures, hit list and big tasks, and those you are working to get in front of the next day. I write my daily plan out every night and review it every morning.
2. Everybody needs a coach in life. Hire a great coach- You can’t see the picture when you are inside the frame. A good coach will do three things for you including making you have conversations you don’t want to have, encourage you to do things you don’t want to do, but help you become something you didn’t think you could become. Those without coaches stagnate and contract and retreat.
3. Consume more material than anyone else in the form of podcasts, books, and video- With YouTube and podcasts there is no excuse for letting your sword go dull. Make time getting ready, in the car, and while in between meetings for you to de-construct ideas that give you a competitive advantage. Those with the biggest storehouse of mental and emotional tools win the most.
You mention the word habit. We create habits around what we value the most. Life is set up in your daily structured agenda. This is why I created my own planner that is tied to my selling system. See it here: Monster Producer Planner.
Success leaves clues. People that are wildly successful have consistent patterns. Isn’t it time you asked what they are doing and take notes?”
For more from Micheal, visit CoachBurt.com or WhateverItTakesNetwork.com
3. GORDANA BIERNAT @MYPOWERTALK
Gordana Biernat is an inspirational speaker, talking about Consciousness, Creativity, Leadership, Art, Reality and Time. She is a mentor assisting those who seek self development and a greater sense of being through intellectual and spiritual inquiry. Popular writer and thinker sharing her thoughts on Twitter, initiating creative processes and conscious communications. Gordana holds M.A. in Art History and Art Sciences, Psychology, Cognitive Psychology, Communication and Media. When not on assignment Gordana enjoys life, her family, serious reading, food and wine.
” 1. Define what success means to you.
My definition of success has always been: Success is not a question of how much power or money you have acquired. It is a question of how satisfied you are with who you are.
It is important that you find your own definition of what success is and stick to it. Be sure to recognize and enjoy it when you have achieved your goal.
2. Follow your passion – no matter what.
Successful people do what they love, not what they are told to do. Most of the time you will have to ignore negative input from your environment; “friends” telling you “to get real”, media “programming” you to work 9-5 like everyone else and people talking behind your back. In the end it does not matter, because when you do what you love “work” and “free time” become one, your Reality becomes “whole” and you become your true self.
3. Follow your intuition – Trust yourself
Successful people use failures to sharpen their intuition by acknowledging mistakes for what they truly are – feedback. What 95% of the population consider to be mistakes or failures, successful people see as valuable feedback helping them become more intuitive and even better at what they do.
So, think and act as if nothing can fail and don’t forget to use your intuition. It is a tool specifically designed to help you navigate a greater “area” of Reality with your awareness. Always trust your gut feeling.
All this is actually very simple, because in the end success is all about how you lead yourself. The rest comes as a natural result of that. So, when in doubt just ask your Self:
Would I follow ME?
Would I be inspired by ME?
If the answer is Yes! and Yes! – Go for it. ”
For more from Gordana, visit MyPowerTalk.com
4. MATTHEW HALLORAN @THE_LIFE_COACH
Matthew Halloran is an expert and nationally recognized speaker teaching people how to communicate more effectively and is the president and founder of Top Advisor Coaching. He believes the source of and solution to all the worlds’ problems is that people do not listen. Matthew created a unique coaching model that helps people with their life and their business, because you cannot and should not separate the two, they are life.
“1. Listen more than you talk. My grandmother (along with many other grandmothers I am sure) said you have two ears and one mouth because you are supposed to listen twice as much as you talk. The most successful people listen and learn from anyone they can because you can learn something from anyone.
2. Find a mentor. You should always surround yourself with someone who is more experienced and smarter than you. Why would you want to be the smartest person in the room? Where is the learning occurring?
3. Reward yourself for the small things. For some reason, people think life is a really long race. They are so wrong, it is a series of short races, sometimes they are sprints, and sometimes they are marathons. You have to be able to see a finish line and when you cross it you have to celebrate! Document these achievements and put those reminders around you in a safe place, so you can draw on the energy when you need it most. ”
For more from Matthew, visit MattHalloran.com or TopAdvisorCoaching.com
5. MARK C. THOMPSON @SUCCESSMATTERS
Mark C. Thompson is a senior executive coach, NYT bestselling author, serial entrepreneur, Broadway producer, and leadership columnist for Forbes.com and INC.com.
Mark is the CEO of Virgin Unite Mentors, Sir Richard Branson’s global network for entrepreneurial leadership. He is Charles Schwab’s former Chief of Staff, CCO, and cofounder of the Schwab Foundation. The author of 3 bestselling books (Success Built to Last; Now, Build a Great Business and Admired: 21 Ways to Double Your Value) Mark is also a visiting scholar and founding advisor of the Realtime Venture Design Lab at Stanford’s Graduate School of Business.
Mark is an investor and board member of several high-growth companies, and Forbes called him one of “America’s Top Venture Investors with the ‘Midas’ Touch”. The AMA featured Mark as one of the “World’s Top Executive Coaches” and the #1 thought leader on Innovation Leadership and Engagement.
“Three Simple, But Not Easy, Pieces that Must Fit Together
During the research for my book Success Built to Last, we discovered that there were three elements that are present in all of the people that we surveyed who had been successful for 20 years or more.
These three elements are Passion, Purpose and Performance. When all these are in alignment, they form the foundation on which one can build and sustain success. It may seem that you might not need all three aligned to achieve short-term ambitions or success as traditionally defined — but the more that you pull all three together, the more likely it is that your success will keep going on decade after decade. That success, however, must be defined by YOU. Your own definition of success should be how you feel you are Performing by using your Passions towards a Purpose in the world. Of course, this is a simple model for a very complex and often challenging process that takes time and a deep level of thought. Just asking people to come up with their own definitions of success (rather than chasing ‘success’ as defined by others) can be a daunting, soul-searching task. If you are trying to meet someone else’s definition of success in your daily work and actions, there will be a strong tendency for three circles to drift apart wildly and be out of sync. In the immortal words of Peter Drucker, “The only things that evolve by themselves are disorder, friction and malperformance.” Similar to misalignment in a car – if you don’t attend to tires that are out of alignment, at the beginning, you’ll feel a pull in a direction that you don’t want to go – and you have to work harder and harder to stay on course. If you continue to ignore misalignment – you’ll feel more and more uncomfortable vibration until (metaphorically) the wheels come off! Without making sure that you are passionate about your work and feel a sense of purpose, you can’t perform well – and there are always many forces at work and at home can make it difficult to keep these three completely aligned at any given time. So 3 critical habits of highly successful people are to
1). Figure out your OWN definition of success.
2.) Evaluate your own passions and purpose.
3.) Continuously ask yourself if you are aligning these things in your personal, professional and spiritual life and make adjustments to bring them into alignment.”
For more from Mark, visit MarkCThompson.com
If there’s one thing that’s clear about the habits of success it’s that there’s plenty of variety. So, don’t get frustrated if a certain strategy isn’t getting you there! Use your own common sense and a positive attitude to test out each tip and see how they work for you. If you stay focused on your goals and creating new behaviors you will undoubtedly overcome your average routine and trade up for habits that start working for you and your success.
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