So you want to be more confident in yourself and you abilities? No problem. While most of us are not born with an abundance of confidence, simple modifications in our daily rituals can greatly increase our self worth.
There are hundreds of techniques to this, and in this post, I will cover 6 of them.
1. Do Something New Every Day
Have you ever set a new years resolution? Just the one, or several? This point is based on the same principle. You must endeavor to do something new and exciting every day.
Taking up a new challenge every day will essentially force you outside of your comfort zone and will also get your creative juices flowing. You will feel much better about yourself knowing that you are trying something new on a daily basis.
Mixing up your routine will make you stronger, as you become more reliant on your own abilities. This will in turn make you feel more accustomed to using your own skills and talents to get by, better preparing you for any situation that may arise, and helping to ultimately strengthen your own self confidence.
2. Wear Confident Clothes
There’s a famous quote that reads “Whether you think you can or you cannot, you’re right”. I think it’s important to remember this quote when purchasing new clothes for the sole reason that when you wear clothes that make you feel powerful, confident and on top of the world, that is exactly how you will carry yourself.
It is how you carry yourself and how you act that essentially determines how you feel in the long run. You may get a burst of confidence here and there for different reasons such as a powerful song, movie, or situation, but if you consistently wear clothes that make you feel good about yourself, you will always feel the power that you truly have within yourself.
You hold the key to letting it free…. or locking it up.
3. Use Confident Body Language
No matter what your wear, or what you do new each day, I think you will ultimately lose any spark of confidence you may have if you don’t use confident body language on a frequent basis.
If you’re at a party, don’t be the one sitting down alone on the couch, listening in on other people’s conversations. Be the person standing up in the middle of the group, sharing your thoughts and opinions on a range of matters. But don’t leave it at that, ask others for their opinion.
But don’t worry, if this is a little difficult for you, just keep trying. Some people say you should “fake it until you make it”, so simply portraying a sense of confidence is sufficient for now, as long as you actively work on developing your own inner confidence.
4. Speak With a Confident Voice
Standing up in the middle of a group and expressing your own opinion and thoughts won’t work by saying what you think in a low & soft voice, the people you’re speaking to will not relate to what you are saying, and will pick up on your uncertainty.
Speak up. Use a slow & calm voice, coming from deep in your chest, not just your throat. Look every person in the eye to make sure they are feeling what you mean.
When others see your passion, when they can see that you truly believe in what you are saying, they will appreciate what it is you are saying all the more.
However sometimes they will disagree, and that is perfectly ok. Don’t jump to saying that they are totally wrong, no matter how much you believe they are. Simply give them their shot at explaining why they think the way they do. Respect them and their opinions, they way you would like them to respect you are yours.
5. Don’t Compare Yourself to Others
It is absolutely essential that you never compare yourself to others. No matter what. Comparing your achievements, family, social standing, or bank account, with that of others is a great way to land your mixed feelings, feelings which are completely out of place.
You have never been in their shoes and you never will be. You don’t know what their life is like or what they have been through. The path they have taken to get to a particular point is completely different than your own, and so, there is no accurate comparison to be made.
The only person you should compare yourself with, is the person you were yesterday, last week or some other time in the past. You are the maker of your own future and everything you base your goals and aspirations on should be considering what you have accomplished in the past and what it meant for you.
When you truly decide that you will be a better person… well guess what? YOU WILL.
6. Use Positive Self-Talk Every Morning and Every Night
I love this tip. Whether you realize it or not, this habit is in fact the concrete structure that holds the previous 5 habits true.
My advice? Get a big mirror in your room. If anybody says your just being vain, well, all you have to do is ignore them and prove them wrong and continue on in your unstoppable waves of confidence that never loose strength. Use that mirror to look into your own eyes and recite all the things that make you unique. All the things that make you special and all the things that other’s wish they had.
You are an amazing person, no matter what anybody says. You have unique qualities and you are a treasure to have in this world. The sooner you humbly accept this fact and let it take hold of you, I guarantee you will create an aurora of incredible light. and. you, will shine.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” – Marianne Williamson
I really hope you guys like this post and can relate to what it’s about. As always, thank you for reading and please feel free to comment or share with your friends.
This article was originally published on Joey’s personal blog.